When private coping is no longer enough.
A 40-day therapist-guided grief process for people who are functioning, but not freely — because grief is still appearing everywhere in ordinary life.
Not full therapy.
Not a grief journal.
A structured place to bring the grief you have been carrying privately.
Before you read on, hear this from me directly.
MyGRIEF is personal.
The tone matters.
Take a moment to hear what this is
— and what it is not.
They are dead.
Or gone.
And the world starts asking things from you again almost immediately.
That is one of the most brutal things about grief.
Ordinary life does not stop with you. People still send messages.
Work still exists.
The shopping still needs doing.
Other people still expect a version of you that can answer, decide, carry, function.
And meanwhile something in you is completely elsewhere.
You can be doing something completely day to day and feel the whole thing sitting in your chest again.
You can get through a conversation and fall apart the moment you are alone. You can laugh once and hate yourself for it.
You can wake up and for half a second it is not there, and then it is.
That is grief. Not in theory. Not in a book. Like this.
And when grief keeps returning like this, quietly and repeatedly, private coping can start to become too small.
This is also where people get misled.
Because grief is still talked about as if it moves through five stages in some kind of order.
First this.
Then that.
Then eventually acceptance.
That is not how it works.
Grief is raw and leads its own life.
You can feel anger in the morning, numbness at lunch, love in the afternoon, and something close to peace for ten minutes before the whole thing turns again.
You can miss them and be furious with them.
You can feel relief and hate yourself for that too.
You can function quite well one day and feel completely wrecked the next.
And that can go on for years.
So if this has felt impossible to understand, impossible to predict, and impossible to carry “properly”, that does not mean you are doing grief “wrong”.
It means grief is not tidy while you are inside it, surviving.
So you keep going.
You do what has to be done.
You answer.
You arrange.
You get through the day.
You hold it together when other people are there and pay for it when they are gone.
And that is exactly the problem now.
Because functioning is not the same as grieving.
Enduring is not the same as something changing.
Time passing by is not the same as the pain moving away.
You can carry grief for months in a very disciplined way and still have it sitting in exactly the same place.
In your chest.
In your throat.
In your sleep.
In the background of everything.
That is the point where “coping” starts becoming a trap.
Not because you are doing something wrong.
But because what you are doing is no longer enough.
This is the point
MYGRIEF is built for.
Not the moment where another explanation is enough.
Not necessarily the moment where you need full therapy.
The moment where private coping has become too small for what you are still carrying.
What you want at that point is not
a better explanation.
You want somewhere to bring it.
Somewhere that does not turn your grief into a lesson.
Somewhere that does not ask you to be over it.
Somewhere structured enough to hold what keeps returning.
Somewhere human enough that you are not left alone with it.
Not fixed.
Not erased.
Not turned into something pretty.
But met clearly enough, and steadily enough, that you are no longer carrying all of it only in your own head.
That is what MyGRIEF gives your grief for 40 days.
Over these 40 days, MyGRIEF gives the grief you have been carrying a structured place to be met — inside my online therapy platform, with me present in the background while the process unfolds.
So it is no longer something you only carry privately, silently and alone inside ordinary life.
That is what this is.
A 40-day therapist-guided grief process.
It takes place inside my private online therapy platform.
It is guided from beginning to end.
There are no live sessions.
But you are not left alone with content.
I personally open your space, follow the process as it unfolds, and respond within 24 hours where a response is useful or appropriate.
Sometimes that response may be written.
Sometimes, where useful, it may be a short audio or video reflection.
This is not continuous chat. It is not therapy on demand.
It is a structured grief container with real therapist presence.
So why is MyGRIEF different?
This works differently because grief does not wait for a good moment.
It hits when you are trying to get through an ordinary day.
When you are tired.
When you are doing something practical.
When you are already stretched.
When nobody is around.
When everybody is around.
When something small suddenly knocks the wind out of you.
That is where most support is too thin.
You talk to a friend, write in a journal, or have one good moment of insight, and then you are alone again with the rest of the week.
This is built differently.
The programme runs over 40 days because grief keeps coming back and keeps no clock.
And I stay present in the background because the hard part is not only talking about grief.
The hard part is what happens when it hits you in real life.
That is why “with me in your pocket” matters.
Not as a slogan.
As the difference between doing this alone and not doing it alone.
Over those 40 days, the grief is not left to just circle in your head.
It is met again and again.
In different ways.
On different days.
In different states.
So it has somewhere to go instead of flooding everything silently and then disappearing back underground.
Not because you have one big breakthrough.
But because the work stays alive.
It does not vanish the moment one difficult day is over.
It does not depend on you having to hold the whole thing by yourself between one moment and the next.
The programme guides you through that process step by step.
I respond in the background while it unfolds.
Sometimes with comments, and sometimes with a short audio or video reflection when that is more useful.
There is also bounded chat contact.
And the whole pathway has a clear beginning and a clear end.
That matters.
Because grief needs more than one good moment. It needs a structured place to be met over time.
But this is not full therapy.
It is not crisis support.
It is not emergency care.
It is not unlimited access to me.
It is also not a vague grief journal where you are left alone with a few prompts and a nice intention.
This is real work with me.
Guided.
Bounded.
Held.
It asks something of you while you are in it.
And I am there in the background while the work unfolds.
That is why it is different from something light, vague, or easy to ignore.
This is for you
This is for you if grief is still too present in your ordinary life.
You are still functioning, but not freely.
You can get through the day, but something in you is still carrying too much alone.
It is for you if private coping has run out of space.
It is for you if you want real contact, a clear structure, and a serious 40-day process that does more than help you survive the next few days.
It is not for you
It is not for you if you need crisis care.
It is not for you if you want therapy on demand.
It is not for you if you want live sessions included.
And it is not for you if what you really want is something light, passive, and easy to ignore once bought.
But if you know the pain is real, if you know it is not changing enough on its own, and if you want something stronger than carrying it quietly in the background of your life, then yes, this is for you.
The route
What happens after you begin
Because MyGRIEF is personally guided, I only take a limited number of people at a time.
Your place is secured immediately.
You receive your first email straight away.
After that, I personally take over from the machine.
I will ask you to complete a short first-discovery form so I can understand what has brought you here and what this grief is like for you now.
I then personally open your space inside my online therapy platform within 24 hours.
You receive your access, set your password, enter the programme, and begin.
Step by step, you know where you are.
The price of the MYGRIEF PROGRAMME
The price for this 40-day guided grief programme is €247.
That is what you are saying yes to:
40 days of guided work inside my online therapy platform, with me present in the background through comments, short audio or video reflections where useful, and bounded chat contact while the programme unfolds.
So this does not work like an anonymous digital product.
It works like a real, personally guided entry into the programme, with me behind you from the start.
You are not paying for information about grief.
You are entering a structured place where the grief you have been carrying has somewhere to go.
I’m Gijs van Breugel
I’m a psychotherapist & coach.
And I do not come to grief from the outside as someone with a few neat ideas about loss.
I know what grief does to a human being. I know what it did to me.
I know how it can tear straight through the normal story of your life. I know how strange it is that the world keeps moving while something in you has been hit so hard that time no longer feels the same.
I know how quickly people start talking around grief instead of into it.
And I know how lonely that can make mourning.
That is also why I do not work in fluff, sentiment, or prefabricated comfort.
When I work with grief, I work seriously.
I do not try to tidy it up too fast. I do not force it into stages. I do not stand at a safe distance from it.
I stay with what is actually there.
The pain. The confusion. The anger. The missing. The love. The body.
The reality that this has changed something fundamental and that no clever sentence is going to make that untrue.
This programme comes from that same spine.
It is smaller than my broader Real Therapy work.
But it is built in the same way: real contact, clear structure, psychological seriousness, and me actually there while the work is happening.
That is why you want to work with me.
Not because I have a beautiful theory about grief.
But because I know this needs more than a prompt, more than a platitude, and more than being left alone with it.
IF PRIVATE COPING HAS NOT BEEN ENOUGH,
MyGRIEF GIVES YOU A PLACE TO BEGIN.
You know that carrying it the way you have been carrying it is costing you too much.
Getting through the day has not been enough.
Time passing has not been enough.
Keeping it quietly in the background has not been enough.
This is what you are buying:
A 40-day guided grief process inside my online therapy platform.
No live sessions.
But not alone.
I stay with you in the background while the programme unfolds, through comments, short audio or video reflections where useful, and bounded chat contact.
This is serious grief work, guided properly, over time, with me in your pocket while you are actually living through it.
The price is €247.
Safe payment by credit card.
You know what this is.
You know what it costs.
You know how it works.
You know how it starts.